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Ways to end believing that you won't succeed

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Author: Daria Shekina

Often, we harbor certain doubts within ourselves related to our abilities, work skills, talents, and so forth. All of these inhibit us on the path to self-realization, and these fears can be summed up in one word - doubts. A psychological blog on Instagram called Mentoly explains how to stop thinking that nothing will work out for you.

How to stop doubting yourself

If you've ever had thoughts like, "Nobody will ever love me" or "I'll never succeed," it's a vivid example of overgeneralization.

Overgeneralization is a type of cognitive distortion where a person assumes that a negative experience from one event in the past guarantees that all other attempts will be the same:

  • Assuming only the worst: "Things always go wrong for me; we'll never make it on time."
  • Believing future attempts will end in failure: "I didn't pass the interview; they'll never hire me."
  • Negative self-talk: "I'm not good enough" or "I could never do that."

Ways to end believing that you won't succeedHow to stop thinking that nothing will work out for you (Photo: Freepik)

To combat overgeneralization, simple techniques like reframing thoughts and focusing on specific situations can be employed. Instead of saying, "I always do everything wrong; it never works out," try reframing: "Sometimes I face challenges, but I can learn and grow. Every mistake is an opportunity for improvement, not proof of my overall incompetence."

Focusing on specific situations involves concentrating on particular cases and details instead of general statements. Rather than saying, "I'm lazy, and I can't do anything right," focus on specifics: "Where do I feel drained of energy? What tasks do I struggle with, and why? What exactly isn't working?"

Dealing with overgeneralization can be done independently, but it's often addressed in the context of cognitive-behavioral therapy with a qualified therapist.

Working with a professional can help you identify and change tendencies toward overgeneralization. A therapist can assist in positive reframing and reducing the harmful impact of overgeneralization on your life.

Earlier, we discussed whether it's possible to love two people at the same time.