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Signs of unhealthy and healthy personal boundaries

Signs of unhealthy and healthy personal boundaries Signs of healthy and unhealthy personal boundaries (photo: Freepik)

Not everyone knows how to properly distinguish themselves from the outside world, but some signs indicate psychological maturity, according to the Psychology Online portal.

Signs of healthy boundaries

  • trust but verify
  • reveal yourself little by little, stopping to see how others react to your disclosure
  • establish close relationships gradually
  • think about the consequences before giving in to impulse
  • express sexuality when you want to be sexual, focusing on your feelings rather than observing your partner's reaction
  • establish and value your values, regardless of what others think
  • notice when another person shows inappropriate boundaries
  • notice when someone violates your boundaries
  • say no to food, gifts, touches, sex you don't want
  • ask for permission before touching someone
  • respect others without taking advantage of someone else's generosity
  • respect yourself and give as much as you want, not too much, hoping to please someone
  • do not allow others to take advantage of your generosity
  • trust your own decisions
  • have your own opinion
  • know who you are and what you want
  • understand that friends and partners cannot read minds
  • clearly articulate your desires and needs, understanding that you may be rejected, but you can ask
  • be a loving parent to yourself
  • speak to yourself softly, with humor, love, and respect.

Signs of unhealthy boundaries

  • tell everything to anyone
  • engage in intimate communication on the first meeting
  • fall in love with a new acquaintance
  • be overly obsessed - consumed by another person
  • act on the first sexual impulse
  • be sexual not for yourself, but for your partner
  • go against personal values or rights to please others
  • not notice when someone sets inappropriate boundaries
  • not notice when someone violates your boundaries
  • accept food, gifts, touch, or sex when you don't want to
  • touch someone without asking
  • take as much as you can get for the sake of getting
  • give as much as you can give for the sake of giving
  • allow others to take from you as much as they can
  • allow others to control your life
  • allow others to describe your reality
  • allow others to define (evaluate) you
  • believe that others can predict your needs
  • expect others to meet your needs automatically
  • experience failure for someone to take care of you
  • self-violence
  • sexual and physical violence
  • food and chemical abuse.

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