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What you absolutely need to know when breaking up

What you absolutely need to know when breaking up Illustrative photo (Photo: Freepik)
Author: Daria Shekina

Breaking up is often not such a straightforward decision. Therefore, before discussing a breakup, it's worth evaluating your relationship and asking yourself a few questions, according to the psychological portal on Instagram.

What to know when breaking up

Every relationship is different, and people in relationships are different too, so there is no right or best way to break up.

However, when we realize that there is no other way but to part, we usually turn to common advice, such as talking face-to-face and being honest. While this advice is important, have you ever thought about other aspects that should also be considered when breaking up?

Do you talk about not feeling happy?

Relationships don't break up in an instant. It takes some time for everything to fall apart. So, as soon as you feel that something is wrong, you should talk to your partner to give a chance to fix things.

But if time and conversations no longer help, and the decision has already been made, here are 3 tips to make it less painful.

Don't try to make the other person feel better

This especially applies to those who initiated the breakup. After breaking up, you are no longer responsible for the other person's emotions. Not only are you not obliged to help them cope with their emotions, but trying to comfort them will only make them feel worse.

Allow yourself to experience different emotions, but do not judge or blame yourself for them

You can experience any emotions, even negative ones, and it's okay and normal to cry, rejoice, or mourn.

But you shouldn't judge or blame your partner. This doesn't mean you shouldn't differentiate between good/bad behavior or right/wrong choices. You need to learn from your mistakes, from what went wrong in the relationship, and it will help you move on.

What you absolutely need to know when breaking upWhat to know when breaking up (Photo: Freepik)

Invest in yourself

Being in a romantic relationship with someone for a long time creates a third psychological entity, which includes you and your partner. Therefore, the best and most important advice after a breakup is to invest in restoring your personal identity:

Remember what you used to love doing before

Examples of this could be:

  • Focus on work with double the strength
  • Spend time with friends
  • Seek therapy.

Some people aim to remain friends with their exes. Others aim to never cross paths with that person again.

Also, read about 7 phrases used by confident people.