Don't scare him off - 10 things women shouldn't do on first dates
What are 10 things a woman shouldn't do on first dates (photo: Freepik)
The first date is a bit like a test drive: both partners look at each other and assess how comfortable they are together. While we all want to make a good impression, sometimes we can accidentally go too far, says Ukrainian life coach and sexologist Vitalii Kursik.
Playing someone else's role
Pretending to be "that perfect woman" is a strategy that works only in the short term. Sooner or later, your true character will show through, so it's better to be yourself from the start.
Talk only about yourself
Of course, it's important to talk about yourself, but if the whole meeting turns into a monologue, your partner may get bored. The ideal formula is a dialog where both have a say.
Sharing personal problems too quickly
"You know, I have a terrible ex-boyfriend...", "I have a ten-year loan..." - is not the best start for a romantic evening. It is better to leave deep topics for more confidential conversations," the coach advises.
Belittle yourself
Phrases like "Oh, who needs me?" or "I'm not interesting at all" may evoke sympathy, but they are unlikely to charm. Self-confidence is much more attractive.
Turn a date into an interrogation
"How much do you earn?", "Are you sure you want children?", "How many women have you been with?" Too personal or too serious questions can put a person in an awkward position," the expert emphasizes.
Trying to impress with a luxurious look
Looking good is great, but if the outfit is uncomfortable or the look is too inorganic, it can create a sense of artificiality. It's important to stay natural.
Constantly looking at your phone
If a woman is constantly checking her messages or scrolling through social media instead of live contact, this is a signal that she is not interested in a date. And a man can draw the appropriate conclusions.
Talk about marriage and children on the first date
"If a partner brings up this topic, it's fine. But if a woman makes it clear from the very first minutes that she is looking for a man "exclusively for a family," it can be frightening," the expert says.
Pretending to be "different"
Phrases like "I'm not like other women" often sound like an attempt to devalue everyone else. And this doesn't add to the communication.
Forcing yourself to do something if you're uncomfortable
If you don't like a man, the conversation doesn't work out, or your partner's behavior is disturbing, you don't need to "sit through" the date out of politeness. Your boundaries are more important than any social rules.
"The first date is not an exam or a battle for attention. It's just an opportunity to get to know each other and understand whether you want to meet again. So the main thing is to be yourself and listen to your own feelings," Vitalii Kursik summarizes.
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