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10 false facts that ruin our lives

10 false facts that ruin our lives Illustrative photo (Photo: Freepik)
Author: Daria Shekina

In our society, there are many beliefs that we've held since childhood, but they're the ones that ruin our lives, reports the Psychology Online portal on Instagram.

If you don't have a partner - you're lonely

Just because you're alone now doesn't mean you're lonely. If it comes to it, personal relationships don't guarantee happiness. And staying unattached, you'll never be as lonely as in the wrong relationship.

If you realize that being with this person won't lead to anything good, it's better to end the relationship and spend some time with the most important person in your life - yourself. Try to find yourself. Restore your self-esteem. And the next time you find yourself in personal relationships that are rapidly deteriorating, you'll be ready to leave them in time.

Happiness is only when you have everything you want

Just because you're happy doesn't mean you don't want anything. It means you're grateful for what you have and patiently await what will happen. Sometimes we're so focused on wanting something big that we completely stop noticing the little things that make our lives magical.

So cherish today - believe me, it's worth it. Because it's one of those same good old days that you'll nostalgically remember in old age.

If someone is feeling bad - you see it right away

We all experience pain, fear, and hardship. Some have just learned to hide it much better than others. You don't know what's going on behind the closed doors of their soul, so judging people only by what you see is a waste of time and energy.

If you have time to discuss and judge other people, you probably have too much free time. It's better to put it to something worthwhile.

10 false facts that ruin our livesFalse facts we believe all our lives (photo: Freepik)

Life should go a certain way, and no other

No one can hurt us more than we hurt ourselves. But by inflicting a wound on our soul, we can also heal it - sometimes it's enough not to be ashamed of our thoughts and to be a realist. After all, we always have a choice in how to respond to the situations life throws at us.

So give up the unrealistic image in your head that you're trying to fit your life into, and start accepting it for what it is. Change what can be changed, change your perspective on what can't be changed, and keep moving forward.

You should be like someone else

When you stop comparing yourself to other people, real or imaginary, and when you stop comparing yourself to other versions of yourself (which mostly exist only in our heads), only then do you begin to live peacefully - and only in this peace is there absolutely nothing illusory.

Truly wonderful life is lived by the chosen ones

If you wake up every morning saying, "Today is going to be a great day," and fall asleep understanding how great it was, only then, once in many years, you can smile and say, "My life was just wonderful."

We don't need hard times

Sometimes to find happiness, you need to go through real hell. Sometimes to meet the right people, you have to get rid of those who don't belong in your life.

Sometimes to understand what it means to be strong, you have to feel weak. Sometimes you have to go through crowds to find the one person you can spend the rest of your life with, and sometimes you have to meet both good and bad with open arms, knowing that ultimately, both bring invaluable experience.

Being strong means not feeling pain

Actually, strong people are those who feel pain, accept it, learn from it as much as they can, and then overcome it. The essence of strength is the determination to ask for a break, shed tears, wipe them away, and then return to the ring to fight as you've never fought before.

A lie for the better is normal

Before saying "I love you," feel love. Be truly grateful when thanking someone. Feel remorse when apologizing. Believe me - when your words are backed by real feelings, they penetrate deep into the hearts of others.

Dreams are a waste of time

The greatest gifts are those that are invisible to the eye but felt by the heart. What we see is only a small part of what is possible. Imagination is the ability to look beyond the horizon, to imagine what's very important to us but hidden from view.

So cherish today's day - trust me, it's worth it. Because it's one of those same "good old days" that you'll nostalgically remember in old age.

Earlier, we talked about how to deal with spring melancholy.