Psychologist questions breakup during relationship difficulties
Is it worth breaking up when things are going badly in a relationship? (photo: Freepik)
The dynamics of relationships between a man and a woman in each couple are very individual. For some, living together is convenient, while for others, marriage may seem like a waste of time. However, in both marriage and relationships, the question arises of whether it is worth starting to live separately when things go wrong, according to a video from psychologist Dmytro Ostapenko.
Is it worth breaking up when things are going badly in a relationship
"Many people think that when there is intense conflict in a relationship and everything is practically shaking with the anger of both partners, then if you separate, you can stop quarreling and not continue to emotionally harm each other, and this distance will allow you to cool down and evaluate the relationship from the outside - but this is not how it works," says the psychologist.
According to Dmytro, in reality, distance doesn't solve anything, based on his counseling experience.
"Distance does not solve the fundamental problems between you. Yes, at a distance, you don't harm each other, you don't argue, you don't throw dishes at each other, figuratively speaking. But at a distance, none of your problems are solved either," the psychologist concludes.
Is it worth parting ways when things are going badly in a relationship? (photo: Freepik)
"From my point of view, it is much better to stay together and take micro-breaks in this conflict. Sometimes just leaving the house, not shouting back, calming down, giving yourself a break, but sleeping together, staying in the apartment together, and finding a solution," the expert recommends.
According to the psychologist, you can also read special books together to improve your relationship or seek help from a specialist. In his words, reading such books together for even 10 minutes can reduce tension.
Therefore, it is better to stay together and gradually try to restore the family to a normal state. After all, when you are apart, you can feel the wrong emotions and think that you don't need each other.
Earlier, we talked about 6 things that happy couples never do.
