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6 things that can turn people against you

6 things that can turn people against you Illustrative photo (Photo: Freepik)
Author: Daria Shekina

Some actions can push you away from people. In particular, you may inadvertently damage relationships and leave a not-so-pleasant impression of yourself, according to the Hack Spirit website.

You don't know how to listen

Often people want to share all my recent travels due to excitement. But in their enthusiasm, they fail to realize that they're not listening to what others are saying.

I noticed people starting to drift away from our conversation. Only when a friend pointed out that I was monopolizing the conversation did I realize my mistake.

The ability to truly listen is one of the most respectful things you can do. If you always talk, people may feel that you're not interested in what they have to say.

You're always negative

Everyone has had periods in life when things seemed to go wrong - work, relationships. When you share this negativity with everyone, people might start avoiding you.

It's worth remembering that everyone has problems. You need to work on maintaining a positive outlook; you really can change how people perceive you.


Lack of reliability can seriously affect how people perceive you. If you're constantly late for meetings or consistently miss deadlines, it signifies that you don't value other people's time or commitments.

Consistency and reliability build trust, and trust is the foundation of any relationship, personal or professional. So if people feel they can't rely on you, they probably won't want to engage with you further.

Constantly on your phone

Being glued to your phone, especially when you're in the company of others, can come across as rudeness and disrespect. It creates the impression that you're not interested in what people have to say.

Too egocentric

People usually don't enjoy conversing with egocentric individuals. It gives the impression that you don't value others or their experiences.

Therefore, it's important to show genuine interest in other people.

You're not genuine

It's uncomfortable to have a conversation with someone who isn't sincere with you.

It's important to be genuine and honest in communication, then people will want to spend time with you.

If you always try to be someone you're not, people may feel uncomfortable around you.

Earlier, we reported on how to change your life and become better.