10 fatal mistakes men make on first date: How not to scare woman away

Being late without warning

Traffic, lost keys, or missing a ride - things happen. But if you know you’ll be late, send a message. Waiting in uncertainty kills the romantic mood.

Talking only about yourself

A coach reminds us that a woman needs to feel heard. If a man spends hours talking about his achievements, hobbies, and job but then can’t remember her cat’s name, that’s a fail.

Trying to impress with expensive gestures

"Ordering the most expensive champagne, giving an unexpected gift, or suggesting a weekend in Paris may not look like generosity, but rather an attempt to 'buy' affection," explains the expert.

A first date shouldn't feel like an interrogation or a therapy session about exes (Photo: freepik.com)

Complaining about exes

"All women are the same," "My ex didn’t appreciate me," "I’m still not over my past relationship" - these phrases show that a man hasn’t moved on. And no one wants to be his emotional rehab.

Turning a date into an interrogation

"Do you plan to have kids?" "How much do you make?" "Can you cook?" - asking overly serious questions too soon can be intimidating. A date is not a job interview.

Interrupting or forcing opinions

Constantly correcting a woman, arguing over trivial things, or trying to prove you know everything better is a fast way to push her away.

Showing off wealth too aggressively

Talking too much about an expensive watch, car, or business can make it seem like a man is overcompensating for insecurity.

"It can also give the impression that he’s only interested in those who admire his wallet," adds the coach.

Ignoring non-verbal cues

If a woman pulls away, avoids touch, or looks tense, it means she's uncomfortable.

"And yet some men continue to lean in closer, touch, or even insist on continuing the evening. This definitely doesn’t help their case," warns the expert.

Forgetting basic courtesy

Looking at your phone instead of engaging in conversation, being rude to waiters, or not listening—all signal a lack of manners. Any woman will notice this.

Forcing the pace

Trying to hold her hand, pull her closer, or hint at extending the evening is a risky strategy. If there's mutual interest, everything will unfold naturally. If not, forcing things will only push her away.

"A first date is not a 'win her over at any cost' show. The key is to be sincere, open, and respect the other person's boundaries. If there’s mutual interest, everything will happen easily and naturally," concludes Vitalii Kursik.

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