Valentine's Day. Expert gives important advice to those who will spend it alone
How to spend Valentine's Day alone and not be sad (photo: Freepik)
Valentine's Day is a holiday for all lovers and is celebrated mostly by couples. But life is hectic, so it may be that your soulmate is not with you, is gone, or you haven't met them yet. How not to be sad in such a situation, explains Ukrainian life coach and sexologist Vitalii Kursik.
It's Valentine's Day. The one when the streets are filled with couples in love, cafes are filled with latte art hearts and social media is filled with perfect photos of happy couples. And what if you're not one of them? What if your loved one is far away, at war, or even worse, in captivity? Or maybe they are not in your life at all?
"You can, of course, pretend that this is an ordinary day. And somewhere it is even true - there is nothing magical about February 14, except for the commercial bustle. But there can be an emptiness inside. And this is where it's important not to devalue your feelings," the expert says.
He notes that in such a situation, a person can be hurt, lonely, and anxious, and these are absolutely normal feelings. However, there are things to keep in mind.
"Love is not just about 'being in a couple'. It is about the warmth that we can give and receive from friends, family, and even ourselves. Have you ever thought that you could dedicate this day to yourself? To allow yourself something you've been putting off for a long time: a favorite movie, a book, a delicious dinner for no reason. Not for someone else - for yourself," the coach emphasizes.
He noted that this does not mean that you should forget about others - about those you love and care about, especially if this person is far away and in not the best conditions. Or maybe that person is gone, but the memory of him or her is alive.
The Love Festival is about loving yourself, without which you will not have the strength to take care of your loved ones. Or maybe someone else is having a hard time right now, and your word of support, a message, or just "How are you?" will be a lifesaver for them.
"Love can be different. And even if it's not there now in the form of a loved one, it's there. Inside. In you. And in those who are waiting, who believe and who will be there for you, even if not today," Vitalii Kursik summarizes.
