Should you stay in relationship just for sex in your 20s, 30s, 40s, and beyond
Should you stay in a relationship just for the sake of sex? (Photo: Getty Images)
People often reveal that they maintain relationships with their partners solely for the sake of sex. While sex is indeed an important aspect of a relationship, is it enough to keep two people together?
Ukrainian life coach and sexologist Vitalii Kursik, exclusively for RBC-Ukraine, explains whether it's worth sustaining a relationship just for sex at different ages.
According to the expert, the aspect of attitude towards sexual relations changes depending on age. And if in youth sex has a very great and important meaning, then in adulthood - without high-quality relationships and mutual understanding, sex can lose its importance.
Age 20: Hormones and experiments
At this age, sex often takes center stage. Relationships may be built on physical attraction, as youth is a time of discoveries. But is passion alone enough?
"Usually not. Without emotional intimacy, shared interests, and trust, such relationships quickly fizzle out," says Vitalii Kursik.
Age 30: Awareness and priorities
By this stage, people are generally looking for more than just sex; they seek stability. If a relationship is solely based on the bedroom, sooner or later, the question arises: "What's next?" While sex might be great, without support, friendship, and understanding, it won't sustain the relationship.
Age 40: Quality over quantity
By the time people reach their 40s, they tend to value quality over quantity in sexual interactions. Relationships based purely on physical attraction may feel empty.
"At this age, there's often a desire for something deeper - shared experiences, partnership, and mutual support," the expert emphasizes.
After 50
Sex remains important, but emotional intimacy takes precedence. If a relationship is built solely on sexual interest, it can become burdensome. People seek stability, warmth, and emotional support more than passionate nights.
"Sex is a wonderful bonus in a relationship, but it cannot be the sole reason for staying together. Emotional closeness, shared values, and mutual support are what truly keep a couple together at any age. And if there's sexual chemistry but the rest doesn't work, it's worth honestly asking yourself: is this really what you want?" Vitalii Kursik concludes.
