She's near, but not with you - 6 signs woman doesn't take you seriously
Signs to indicate that woman doesn't take you seriously in a relationship (photo: freepik.com)
She is sweet, gentle - you spend time together, but you feel something is off. You don't know if it's just her way of communicating or if you're just a temporary option for her. If a woman doesn't see you as a serious partner, there are several signs you can notice.
How to tell if a woman doesn't view you as a future life companion, explained by life coach and sexologist Vitalii Kursik.
You’re not her priority
According to the expert, this can be seen in her behavior. You’re always waiting for her to find time for you.
"If her schedule is always overloaded, and meetings with you only happen when it’s convenient for her, this is a sign that you’re not her top priority," explains the coach.
She doesn’t let you into her life
You know almost nothing about her plans, friends, or family. If you’ve been together for months but still haven’t met her close circle, this is a red flag.
"But don’t rush to conclusions. Sometimes, a woman keeps her distance because she needs more time to trust you. It’s worth discussing this openly and calmly," advises the expert.
She avoids emotional intimacy
Physical contact may be there, but when it comes to deep conversations about feelings and the future, she closes up or changes the subject to humor.
She sends mixed signals
One minute she’s interested, the next minute she’s cold. She might send a sweet message and then disappear for several days.
"This 'hot-cold' game often signals that she’s unsure of her feelings or simply doesn’t want anything serious," warns Vitaliy Kursik.
She doesn’t make plans with you
When you talk about going on a trip together or even just about weekends, she avoids specifics. And if she agrees, she does it reluctantly.
She keeps looking for others
If she’s actively on dating sites, has many "friends" on social media with whom she flirts, or simply says, "I’m not ready for a serious relationship," it’s a sign that you’re not her main option.
What to do
- Ask yourself honestly if you're okay with this kind of relationship.
- Don’t excuse her behavior ("she’s just afraid of serious relationships"—no, she’s not afraid, she’s just not ready to build them with you).
- If you want seriousness - discuss it.
- If the answers are vague, make conclusions.
"And most importantly, you don’t have to prove that you deserve a serious relationship. If a woman doesn’t see you as a future partner, it doesn’t mean you’re unworthy of love. It just means she’s not the one for you," concludes Vitalii Kursik.
