How to take compliments correctly - Truth about pleasant words from others
How to respond to compliments and how not to respond (photo: Freepik)
Most people perceive pleasant words, praise and compliments as something undeserved. People blush and try to explain that it's the weather or new clothes. They say "thank you" and sometimes even suspect that they were told something nice for a reason.
If someone says to you, "You look so cool today!" and you respond by talking about a sweater that fits or the right lighting, you should think about it. Perhaps you don't think you deserve such words or you're afraid of looking presumptuous.
Experts say it's normal to blush at compliments. Because we were taught as children that we should be modest, and self-criticism suggests that this is undeserved praise.
"But try to imagine that a compliment is a small gift. It might just be nice to receive it. And maybe the person who gives it also wants to make you happy," experts say.
When we receive a compliment, we experience a whole range of emotions, from joy to embarrassment. If you share your feelings, you can meet similar reactions and find a lot in common with other people. Compliments also allow us to understand how other people see us.
If you hear nice words about yourself:
- Do not devalue yourself, do not make excuses, do not deny
- Smile and just say: "Thank you."
- Add whatever you want: "I am very pleased," "Your words inspire me."
- Try to accept the next compliment without excuses.
Experts also advise not to devalue compliments ("Oh, it's nothing," "It's nothing special") and not to turn the conversation negative ("You just didn't see my mistakes").
Don't respond with uncertainty or sarcasm, as this can embarrass both you and the person who said nice things to you.
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