How to survive loss of loved one: Psychologist's advice
How to survive the loss of a loved one (photo: Freepik)
Losing a loved one is one of the most painful experiences in life. Psychologists emphasize that everyone has the right to experience grief in their own way, and any emotional reactions are normal. During a loss, a person goes through the grieving process, which is also called "grief work." Its purpose is to help you adapt to the loss and learn to live without it. So the phrase "time heals" really makes sense, states Ukrainian psychologist Natalia Hurets.
Accepting the reality of loss
At this stage, it is important to move through denial to the realization of the reality of the loss. It is very painful to accept the fact that it is no longer possible to talk to a loved one, hug them or just be with them.
The psychologist advises not to hold back tears, allow yourself to experience all your feelings, and seek support from loved ones or professionals.
Processing pain
The natural process of bereavement includes funeral rituals, memorial days (9th and 40th), talking about the deceased, and creating a place of remembrance. These actions help to reduce pain and gradually accept reality.
Adapting to a new life
It is important to develop the skills that will help you solve the issues that your loved one used to deal with. With their death, your perception of yourself and others changes - you have to create new meanings.
You need to accept a new status, such as "I am a widow or widower" or "I am the mother of a deceased person". This means accepting yourself as someone else, recognizing who you are now, what you can do, and what you need.
Keeping in touch with the deceased
At this stage, it is important to find a way to preserve the memory of the person, while continuing to build your own life, new relationships, and a new "I" in interaction with the world.
How to help yourself after the death of a loved one
It is important to follow these tips:
- Enlist the support of friends, colleagues, or family.
- Don't hesitate to contact a psychologist/therapist if you feel you can't cope on your own.
- Take care of your health - both mental and physical - and allow yourself to experience all emotions.
"Grief takes time, but remember: seeking help is a sign of strength, not weakness," emphasizes the psychologist.
They also talked about how to deal with negative thoughts that destroy you every day.
