How to know whether you are ready for new relationship after breakup
When to start a new relationship after a breakup (photo: Freepik)
Breaking up is always an emotional storm. Some people recover in a few weeks, while others can't completely let go of the past for years. Ukrainian life coach and sexologist Vitalii Kursik explains when you should really think about a new relationship.
According to the expert, there is no universal formula, because it all depends on the depth of feelings, the reason for the breakup, and personal readiness. And there is no single rule here - it's not the time that matters, but the state of your inner world.
"Time is not an indicator. The formula "six months to recover" or "one month for every year of a relationship" are myths," the coach emphasizes.
If you rush into a new relationship just to fill the void or forget your ex-partner, it's more of an escape than the beginning of something healthy.
"A signal of readiness can be the moment when thoughts of past relationships no longer cause severe pain, and the future doesn't seem bleak without a specific person by your side," Vitalii explains.
It's not how much time has passed that matters, but whether you've really moved on emotionally from the previous relationship. How do you know if you're ready?
- You don't cling to the past
- A new relationship is not a way to forget about your ex
- You do not use a new person as a "band-aid" for wounds
- You are not looking for revenge
- If the desire to enter into a new relationship is caused by the desire to "spite" your ex, you should wait
- You feel comfortable being alone
- A new partner is not a way to escape from loneliness
- You can be happy without a relationship, but you want to share that happiness with someone
- You understand what you want
- You are aware of your needs, have learned from previous relationships, and are ready to build something new rather than repeat old scenarios.
Psychologists advise taking a break to understand yourself: what lessons you have learned, what you want to change in a future partnership, and whether you are really ready to build a new relationship and not just fill a void.
Your heart will tell you when you are ready for a new relationship (photo: Freepik)
The expert emphasizes that the key rule is to take your time and not listen to stereotypes. Your heart will tell you when it is ready. In the meantime, allow yourself to live for yourself, filling your life with what brings you joy and inspiration.
"You shouldn't rush... but you shouldn't delay either. Sometimes people avoid new relationships for years because they are afraid of repeating the pain. Others, on the contrary, throw themselves into the arms of the first person they meet so as not to be alone. Neither option is the best choice. The main thing is to feel like a whole person, regardless of the presence of a partner. New relationships should start with a desire to build something good, not just fill a void," Vitalii Kursik summarizes.
