How to flirt better: 9 simple lines that create real emotional connection
What phrases on a date instantly create chemistry and emotional attraction (photo: Getty Images)
Flirting is an art that can become a real pleasure if you know the right approach. However, for many people, trying to attract someone’s attention can become stressful because of a dislike of empty small talk and fear of rejection.
Your Tango talks about 9 phrases that best create instant chemistry and help avoid awkward pauses.
Why humor is your main weapon?
Psychological studies show that humor signals a high level of intelligence and creativity that cannot be faked. Survey participants in the United States and Norway confirmed that lighthearted flirting tactics are most effective for sparking romantic interest.
9 phrases that instantly create “chemistry”
“They say that nothing lasts forever. This being said, will you be my nothing?”
It’s a classic play on words. It adds an element of unpredictability and shows your playfulness. A light joke eases the atmosphere and reduces the tension of the first contact.
“If you stood in front of a mirror holding 11 roses, you would see 12 of the most beautiful things in this word.”
This is an indirect but very refined compliment. According to data from TIME Magazine, 83% of respondents perceive such a creative approach as the beginning of flirting, while simple questions (for example, about the time) attract only 26%.
“Let’s flip a coin! Heads – you’re mine; tails – I’m yours.”
Shared laughter is the shortest path to closeness. Researchers from the University of Kansas found that the more two strangers laugh together during a first meeting, the higher the chances of a long-term relationship.
“You remind me of my next girlfriend/boyfriend.”
This is risky but often a win because of the surprise effect. People who use a playful flirting style and take a small social risk are remembered much better than those who act too cautiously.
"I’m just planning my future, and I wanted to ask you: Are you free for the rest of your life?”
This phrase radiates confidence. The key here is proper delivery. Self-confidence should look charismatic, not arrogant.
"I’m not flirting. I’m just being super friendly to someone who is super attractive"
This is both a joke and a compliment. Relationship expert Sean Jameson notes that such an approach reduces tension on both sides. If the partner laughs in response — that’s a green light.
“You’re so beautiful that you made me forget my pickup line.”
Instead of using banal pickup lines, you acknowledge the partner’s attractiveness. This makes the person feel special and removes their “defense barrier”.
“If you like water, then you’d like 80% of my body.”
Sounds silly? Yes. But a 2025 study confirmed that people are attracted to partners who are not afraid to be funny. Humor is perceived as a sign of creative ingenuity regardless of gender.
“I dropped my drink on my foot when I saw you. I’ll need your name and number for insurance purposes.”
A creative way to get contact information. The desire to be inventive rather than use standard templates always pays off.
Remember that flirting is first and foremost about enjoyment. Rejection can be unpleasant, but it quickly passes if you enjoy the process of communication.
Be prepared for not every phrase to work 100%, but sincere energy and a lack of fear of looking funny are what build a real connection.
