Friends 'with benefits' – Good or bad? All hidden traps of such relationships
Should this type of relationships be supported and all the possible traps (photo: freepik.com)
Casual intimacy without obligations. A drama-free relationship with all the perks of closeness. A friendship that crosses the line into something more. For some, "friends with benefits" is the perfect setup; for others, it leads to chaos and heartbreak.
Where do the hidden traps lie? Can this kind of relationship truly work?
Life coach and sexologist Vitalii Kursik shared insights on whether it's worth getting into such an arrangement and what pitfalls to watch out for.
Pros of friends with benefits
Freedom. No expectations, no pressure for "forever love."
Comfort. Mutual trust, understanding of preferences and boundaries.
No breakups. Because there’s no formal relationship to end.
Companionship without commitment. A way to ease loneliness without full relationship obligations.
Potential for something more. Some FWB situations evolve into serious relationships, even marriage.
"There are benefits to this type of relationship—your close friend can become a little more than just a friend. But is it worth it?" says coach Vitalii Kursik.
Cons of friends with benefits
Someone always gets attached. And that often leads to pain.
Jealousy. You’re "not together," but what if they start seeing someone else?
False sense of security. It may seem casual and carefree, but disappointment can build up.
Losing the friendship. Many FWBs don’t stay friends once it ends.
Is it right for you
"If sex is deeply emotional for you, FWB could lead to heartache," Kursik warns.
But if you’re genuinely comfortable with it—without hidden hopes or expectations—it can work.
"The key is honesty, especially with yourself. If FWB is your way of getting more than the other person is willing to give, don’t start. But if you’re both on the same page—why not?" he concludes.
