10 false beliefs make it impossible to build strong relationships - What are they
What 10 views on life can prevent you from building strong relationships (photo: Freepik)
Strong relationships are not only about love and passionate emotions. It's also about shared values, mutual respect, and a willingness to move in the same direction. But sometimes the partners' views on life are so different that they become the main obstacle to harmony, says life coach and sexologist Vitalii Kursik.
1. "I am always right"
If one of the partners does not recognize the possibility of their mistake, it will ruin any dialog. In a relationship, it is important to be able to listen, recognize your weaknesses, and seek compromise.
2. "Love can withstand anything"
This is a romantic but dangerous illusion. Love is really important, but without relationship work, respect, and support, even the strongest feelings can fade away.
"The phrase that 'love must withstand all trials' is often used by manipulators when they want to use it to cover up their bad deeds, betrayal, and lies," the coach emphasizes.
3. "You have to change me"
Expecting your partner to fix your habits, solve your problems, or make you happy is a road to nowhere. Changes are possible only when a person wants them.
4. "Money is only your business"
Financial issues are a common cause of conflict. If one partner believes that the other is financially responsible, it creates inequality and tension.
5. "I am more important than everyone else"
If your partner believes that all your resources (time, emotions, attention) should belong only to him or her, this is a signal of a toxic relationship. A person has the right to their own life outside the couple.
"Once upon a time, marriages in which the head of the family was the law, the king, and more important than anyone else were quite common. From the point of view of psychology, this approach is a sign of egoism and self-centeredness," the expert added.
6. "I am who I am, and I don't need to change"
Refusal to work on yourself is a signal that your partner is not ready for development. In a relationship, it is important to be flexible and able to adapt to each other.
7. "Family is an obligation, not a joy"
If one of the partners perceives the relationship only as a burden or duty, there will be no harmony. The family should bring joy, and be a place where both people receive support and inspiration.
8. "A man/woman should..."
Relationships based on stereotypes quickly decay. If expectations are based on ideas about the "right" behavior of a partner, instead of accepting it as real, this causes constant conflicts.
"There are no 'women's' and 'men's' responsibilities, there is only how you have agreed to divide the responsibilities. And the happiest couples are those who do everything together," the expert says.
9. "Only I know what is right"
Partners with dogmatic views of life often ignore the needs of the other. If one of you refuses to accept an alternative point of view, it creates a communication gap.
10. "If something doesn't work, you just have to be patient"
Patience is not a solution to problems. Relationships require action: communication, conflict resolution, and sometimes the willingness to admit that it's time to part ways.
"You can build strong relationships only when both partners are ready to work on themselves, be open to new things, and appreciate each other without illusions and prejudices," Vitalii Kursik summarizes.
Earlier, we wrote about why it's hard for 40-year-old men to build serious and lasting relationships.
