Should you split up when things get tough in relationship? Psychologist's insight
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Relationships between a man and a woman in each couple are very individual—some find it convenient to live together, while for others, marriage is a waste of time. However, in both marriage and relationships, the question arises: is it worth living separately when things go bad? Psychologist Dmytro Ostapenko explains what to do in his Instagram video.
Is it worth parting ways when things go bad in a relationship?
"To many, when a relationship is at its breaking point and everything practically trembles with the anger of both partners, it may seem that moving apart could stop the quarrels and prevent further emotional harm. This distance might allow for cooling off and reevaluating the relationship from a distance. But this doesn't work at all," says the psychologist.
According to Dmytro, distance doesn't solve anything, based on his counseling experience.
"Distance doesn't solve fundamental problems between you. Yes, at a distance, you don't harm each other, you don't argue, you don't throw dishes at each other, metaphorically speaking. But at a distance, none of your problems are resolved either," the psychologist concludes.
Is it worth parting ways when things go bad in a relationship? (photo: Freepik)
"From my personal point of view, it's much better to stay together and take micro-breaks in this conflict. Sometimes just leaving the house, not shouting back, calming down, giving yourself a break, but staying overnight together, staying alone in the apartment, and looking for a solution," the expert recommends.
According to the psychologist, you can also read special books together to improve your relationship or seek help from a specialist. He says that reading such books together, even for 10 minutes, can reduce tension.
So it's better to stay together and gradually try to normalize the family. After all, when you're apart, you may feel false emotions and believe that you don't need each other.
Earlier, we talked about 6 things that happy couples never do.
