Psychologist explaines why we can't let go of our exes for long time
Why people hold on to their exes for a long time (photo: Freepik)
People often struggle to let go of their exes because reminders and triggers of the past keep popping up. However, the reasons go beyond just these triggers, states psychologist Oleksiy Satanovsky.
Why do we hold on to our exes for so long
"Often, people are confronted with thoughts like, 'When will I be able to let him or her go?' because those feelings and thoughts are still there: 'Maybe I made a mistake, maybe he or she can change?' And this can last quite a long time," says the psychologist.
Valid reasons for feeling such a pull towards ex-partners
"Firstly, you are accustomed to feeling this way, and habits change slowly. It's easier for you this way; there's no need to stress, there's no responsibility, and you can feel like a victim, the person you always were, staying as you are now, but already at a distance, because it feels safe," explains Oleksiy, citing one of the reasons.
Why do people hold on to their exes for a long time (photo: Freepik)
"Secondly, why does this happen, because it's unclear who you are without these relationships, what you can do, what you can be," this is the second reason, according to the psychologist.
That's why it's worth taking care of yourself, dedicating time to yourself, getting to know yourself. What you like, what you don't, who you are, and understanding yourself.
"If you close all these secondary questions with your analysis, you will become indifferent to what was in past relationships, and you will not want to waste time just to continue them, to feel something for your exes," Oleksiy concludes.
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