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Psychologist explained how self-confidence is formed

Psychologist explained how self-confidence is formed How self-confidence is formed (photo: Freepik)

Many people struggle with issues of self-confidence, and the reasons for this are unique to each individual. Not everyone knows how to be confident.

How self-confidence is formed and how to believe in oneself, according to the psychologist Oleksiy Satanovsky.

How self-confidence is formed

Adults do not always feel confident, and this greatly affects their lives and how others interact with them. Confidence also determines how far a person will advance in career matters, personal relationships, friendships, and social life.

Many believe that to have confidence, one must first achieve something. However, it works the other way around – without confidence, achievements are unlikely, as a person lacks boldness and a full understanding of how to act. Any stress or difficult situation can throw a person off course and return them to the initial stage.

In reality, our confidence and healthy self-esteem begin to form in childhood when we start to discover ourselves, understand our desires, and express ourselves as we wish, without worrying about the opinions of adults, peers, and family members who impose limits.

"The principle is I want, the principle is to get satisfaction here and now. When a child chooses what they want, confidence is formed. From there, self-confidence emerges. The child begins to understand that they can influence the situation," says the psychologist.

"However, if this process doesn't happen, then in adult life, a person may struggle to understand what they want or may start considering socially stereotyped desires as their own," continues Oleksiy.

Indeed, the formation of self-esteem is influenced by childhood, understanding one's desires, and, of course, the achievements of the goals we set for ourselves in adulthood. If we succumb to societal expectations and general patterns, self-confidence may never come into our lives.