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6 signs of manipulative person

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Author: Maria Kholina

People learn to manipulate others from a very early age, when they try to get their parents to give them the candy or toy they want by tricks and lies. This skill is refined over the years, and for some, manipulation becomes the sole means of achieving their goals, according to psychologist Iryna Kulik.

Emotional control

According to the expert, manipulators typically skillfully leverage emotions and control them to achieve their objectives.

If an emotional manipulator is in a bad mood, everyone around them will know and feel it. They engulf everyone in their negative emotions and, moreover, make them feel guilty.

Avoiding responsibility

If a person consistently avoids taking responsibility for their actions, it may be a sign of manipulation. Pay attention to it.

Always in a winning position

Manipulators always strive to appear as winners in any situation, even at the expense of others.

Changing stories

Manipulators often alter the versions of events or stories, indicating a lack of transparency and an attempt to hide the truth.

They may say what you want to hear but do something completely different. This is another way to make you doubt your perception of reality and conform to what is convenient for them.

Intense charisma

The psychologist says that such people may have strong charisma but use it to manipulate those around them.

Pretending to be a victim

In any situation, they are the "main characters" who are suffer and being insulted.

If you are offended or angered, it's your fault and your unjustified expectations. If the manipulator is offended or angry, then it's always somebody else's fault.

Iryna Kulik advises paying attention to these signs, being cautious and using your own judgment.